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Salutations fellow internet people!
Also Happy Chinese New Year! It's the year of the Ram, so if you're turning 12, 24, 36, etc. then this is your year ☺ Typically those who celebrate will receive red envelopes containing money from their parents as a way to start the new year, and it's good luck to wear red.
Anyways...back to the topic. Sharing secrets with friends- is it a good or bad thing?
Friendship is important, but secrets are very personal to each individual. When friends tell each other secrets, it creates a stronger bond. I know when someone tells me something private, I get all tingly inside because it's sort of a way of them telling you that you're trustworthy. It also makes each other feel important and special because you are exchanging private information about each other that is too personal to share with the world.
Sometimes, people who know these secrets think it's okay to almost mock your private business, but it's technically "not telling anyone." One of my closest guy friends, Ty, had recently found out that I used to like one of his friends, Brad, and sends me pictures of Brad whenever they're together saying "oh look who I'm with ;)" or "remember him? ;)" I trust Ty because we both have a little dirt on each other, but I kind of regret telling him about my past with Brad. I don't think he knows that his teasing makes me uncomfortable and that I wish I never told him in the first place.
I think the worst is when you tell a friend a really deep secret and they judge you for it. It makes me question how/who I am that created such a strong reaction from a close friend. Is it wrong to like certain things? Is the world going to end if I have feelings toward a certain someone? Is there a specific guideline on how I should live my own life? "But it's not YOU." Okay. That's cool. I didn't know I wasn't allowed to like and appreciate certain things because it doesn't fit my image.
Don't let anyone bring you down for exploring and expanding your variety of interests. It's your decision to choose whether you like something or not, not someone else's. If you decide to tell one friend a secret and not the other, that's okay. It's not like it's their business to share anyways.
Have you ever wondered what happened to the secrets that you told people you're not friends with anymore? Are they going to tell anyone? Or do they just forget about them...? I know that when I'm told a secret, it stays with me because I respect people's privacy and so should they, but that's not always the case. Which brings up my next question.... Are you able to keep your mouth shut? If you expect others to keep your secrets, it's common sense to know that you should also zip your lips. If someone isn't comfortable telling you something, don't push it. Would you want the same thing to happen to you? It's all about reciprocating actions and emotions. "Treat others the way you want to be treated."
Salutations fellow internet people!
Also Happy Chinese New Year! It's the year of the Ram, so if you're turning 12, 24, 36, etc. then this is your year ☺ Typically those who celebrate will receive red envelopes containing money from their parents as a way to start the new year, and it's good luck to wear red.
Anyways...back to the topic. Sharing secrets with friends- is it a good or bad thing?
Friendship is important, but secrets are very personal to each individual. When friends tell each other secrets, it creates a stronger bond. I know when someone tells me something private, I get all tingly inside because it's sort of a way of them telling you that you're trustworthy. It also makes each other feel important and special because you are exchanging private information about each other that is too personal to share with the world.
Sometimes, people who know these secrets think it's okay to almost mock your private business, but it's technically "not telling anyone." One of my closest guy friends, Ty, had recently found out that I used to like one of his friends, Brad, and sends me pictures of Brad whenever they're together saying "oh look who I'm with ;)" or "remember him? ;)" I trust Ty because we both have a little dirt on each other, but I kind of regret telling him about my past with Brad. I don't think he knows that his teasing makes me uncomfortable and that I wish I never told him in the first place.
I think the worst is when you tell a friend a really deep secret and they judge you for it. It makes me question how/who I am that created such a strong reaction from a close friend. Is it wrong to like certain things? Is the world going to end if I have feelings toward a certain someone? Is there a specific guideline on how I should live my own life? "But it's not YOU." Okay. That's cool. I didn't know I wasn't allowed to like and appreciate certain things because it doesn't fit my image.
Don't let anyone bring you down for exploring and expanding your variety of interests. It's your decision to choose whether you like something or not, not someone else's. If you decide to tell one friend a secret and not the other, that's okay. It's not like it's their business to share anyways.
Have you ever wondered what happened to the secrets that you told people you're not friends with anymore? Are they going to tell anyone? Or do they just forget about them...? I know that when I'm told a secret, it stays with me because I respect people's privacy and so should they, but that's not always the case. Which brings up my next question.... Are you able to keep your mouth shut? If you expect others to keep your secrets, it's common sense to know that you should also zip your lips. If someone isn't comfortable telling you something, don't push it. Would you want the same thing to happen to you? It's all about reciprocating actions and emotions. "Treat others the way you want to be treated."
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